Weight gain due to mindset

We are reward focused but what’s your real gain?

It’s just our nature to be reward focused but what is your real reward for continually not moving, not exercising?

Basically, the how-to of exercise and dieting is covered extensively throughout the internet. If you are thinking is this another weight loss blog, discussing how much weight did I gain in what time frame or maybe you are pondering “how I am going to talk about losing those extra centimetres. I am here to put those thoughts to rest as they are pretty pointless.

If you have read my other blogs, we have established it is your mindset that really screws up your success of weight loss.  In this instance I want you to challenge yourself with the thought of “what am I really gaining”.

Is Your Gain obvious to you?

Let’s discuss why you may not want to exercise.

What is really preventing you from not getting out there and moving? I think it is better to start with moving than training as the association with training can be sweaty gym clothes and loads of mirrors. Not to mention disillusionment with tuck shop arms on full display. Ughh!  Whereas if we are moving we are burning calories and maybe even enjoying it. Possibly with no judgment even from ourselves.

So are you getting off your butt and moving?

If so how much?

If not and let’s face it according to the Heart Foundation at 2014/15 65.3% of the population is sedentary or doing low levels of movement, you will be with the majority. What I want to ask you is why?

What is the hidden payoff when we don’t exercise?

I am going to put it to you that if you fall into the low moving or sedentary group that there is some benefit you are gaining from this.  Take a moment to ponder why you are disinclined to even move.

Maybe you feel that it makes you a better parent and if you exercise you won’t be present for the kids or your partner.

It could be that you prefer to sit and watch your favourite program. Maybe you are like a cousin of mine, enjoying watching the biggest loser with a tub of ice-cream in her lap. Happily removed from the moving and sweating activity and preferring the watching to doing.

Perhaps your gain is like the old smokers gain.  Not so much about the stress relief or even the habit but the social context.  I worked with someone that had given up smoking but started again in her 50’s because it reminded her of a naughtier, younger more carefree version of herself.

Whatever the reason, I suggest that it could be that what you are gaining from not moving is feeling more compelling to you.

Sometimes this gain is so powerful that we don’t even recognize it and in a different blog, I will tackle limiting beliefs a bit more.  For now, though I want you to think about what is your gain?

Is it worth it?

With a sedentary lifestyle becoming the “new smoking” I challenge you to really think about is this lack of movement worth it.

Maybe the gain is a distraction from life’s stresses, maybe it provides comfort, and perhaps it allows you to have a different internal dialogue that takes you away from the real issues that are bothering you.  For example “if I don’t exercise I can stay feeling lethargic and justifiably stay at home” “I couldn’t possibly enter a new relationship being this overweight (and new relationships can be a way scarier alternative)”

It really doesn’t matter what the gain is. Usually, it isn’t just that that ‘pizza is delicious hit me with the extra cheese’; but that there is actually some reward in your mindset programming those neural pathways in a really unhealthy manner.  By now that mindset may be so ingrained that it has become a habit, and you do it without even thinking about it.

So what is your gain? Once you know that, it is much easier to find a strategy to help change those unhealthy food habits.




If you don’t mind, it does matter

If you don’t mind, it does matter

What is going on in your mind?

Is your mindset setting you up for triumphant success or leading you down the path to misery?  It has been reliably proven that what we think really matters to our health.

Sure I know the importance of diet and exercise but, as a trainer, what is never addressed is why some people are more successful than others. Why does the weight refuses to move or why the incentives advertised are unsuccessful in getting people active?! This is because they leave real issues are left unaddressed.

You have probably seen the latest and greatest diets being advertised, the fanciest and easiest way to store equipment or even four week exercise programs full of promise. Only to find yourself a few months down the track, asking; where are the promised results?

How we self-sabotage

We have the unique capability to sabotage ourselves with our thinking, without even knowing it!

Just as we can successfully create businesses, families, homes or holiday experiences, we also have the ability to quite often unconsciously sabotage our wellbeing.  This is the crucial factor not dealt with that, in my opinion, is causing so many to be unsuccessful.

The things we put into our minds sometimes without even realising it are creating neural pathways leading to habits that keep us going back for those fluffy muffins, salty french-fries and succulent chocolates. Interrupting these pathways can lead to some real weight changes. Don’t interrupt them and, in the words of my old boss and Henry Ford, “do what you have always done, get what you have always got”!

Imagine if those were healthy habits

I don’t know what tickles your fancy but, if it is unhealthy food habits, imagine what your life would be like if you could change them, imagine finding that extra vitality you’ve been looking for.

Clients frequently complain “I don’t want to just eat lettuce or exercise 2 hours every day” to which I reply; do you need a treat every day?

Reframe game – you do mind

One of the simpler tools I use in dealing with those patterns of unhealthy practices is the reframing of current practices. I do want you to mind, as it will matter if not now then down the track, that no one expects you to have a “lettuce diet” or train like the “Biggest Loser”. But, by just changing our thoughts to, if I train a half hour a day and enjoy my juicy burger as a sometimes food. You can feel good, have a healthy weight and have energy without feeling like you are denying myself.